How is your family doing?
My father is an office worker.
My mother likes cooking.
Does your father drink alcohol?
I have an older brother and a younger sister.
Is your older sister married?
My wife is French.
What does your husband do (for a living)?
I have two children.
How old is your child?
My son is studying at university.
Your daughter is very cute.
I live with my parents.
My grandfather is 80 years old.
Do you have any siblings?
Talking about family in Japan introduces travelers and language learners to one of the most critical and deeply ingrained sociological concepts in the entire country: the strict division between the in-group ("Uchi" - 内) and the out-group ("Soto" - 外). Japanese society, and by extension its language, revolves entirely around this boundary. The vocabulary you use completely shifts depending on whether you are talking about your own inner circle or someone else's. When you speak about your own family members to a friend, colleague, or stranger, you must use humble terminology to actively lower your own status. For example, you refer to your own mother simply as "Haha" (母) and your own father as "Chichi" (父). However, when you are asking about or referring to someone else's family, you absolutely must use honorific terms to elevate their status and show respect. The other person's mother becomes "Okaasan" (お母さん) and their father becomes "Otousan" (お父さん). Applying these honorifics to your own family (like saying "my Okaasan") sounds incredibly arrogant and childish to Japanese ears, as if you are demanding respect for yourself. Similarly, when asking about someone's spouse, you use "Goshujin" (ご主人) for their husband, but "Otto" (夫) for your own. This continuous linguistic dance of elevating the listener while humbling oneself is the absolute essence of Japanese politeness. The line between Uchi and Soto is flexible and also applies to the workplace; when talking to a client (Soto), you humble your own boss (Uchi). Mastering these familial terms is not just about vocabulary; it is about demonstrating a profound understanding of Japanese social hierarchy, respect, and spatial awareness.
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